Dear Insecurities F__k You 🖕

Praveen Pal
3 min readJan 21, 2024

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I’m Praveen Pal, a 24-year-old from the beautiful city of Jaipur, Rajasthan. Today, I want to share a part of my life that I’ve often struggled with but have finally come to accept — my insecurities. Life isn’t always a picturesque journey, and being true to ourselves means acknowledging our imperfections and learning to love them.

Photo by Nate Neelson on Unsplash

Short Stature and Other Insecurities

Let’s start with the basics. I’m not the tallest person in the room, standing at a modest 5.6 feet. I don’t know how to drive, and to be honest, I have no sense of fashion. If you’re looking for someone with a string of romantic relationships, I’m not your guy. And yes, I’ve questioned my appearance, and my lack of relationship experience, and wondered if my height matters. But today, I’m here to say that it doesn’t define me.

Overcoming Challenges

Growing up in a lower-middle-class family has taught me the value of hard work and perseverance. Living in a small house with my family in Jaipur has been both challenging and rewarding. For the past four years, I’ve been the backbone of our household, running the show and managing the house affairs. The responsibility of financing my sister’s college education has been a priority, and I take pride in contributing to her dreams.

Professional Success as a Senior Software Developer

Professionally, I’m a senior software developer working in a good company. It’s a field I’m passionate about, and my dedication has allowed me to climb the ranks. While my job may not involve glamorous suits or corner offices, it brings me fulfilment and allows me to support my family.

My great team giving me a farewell

Reflecting on Self-Worth

Now, let’s address the elephant in the room — my insecurities. For the longest time, I struggled with accepting my height and lack of romantic experience. The societal pressure to fit into predefined norms can be overwhelming. But as I reflect on my journey, I realize that my achievements far outweigh these superficial concerns.

Embracing Imperfections

Accepting my imperfections has been a gradual process, and it started with acknowledging my worth beyond my physical attributes. My height doesn’t determine my capabilities, and my relationship status doesn’t diminish the love and support I provide to those around me. I’ve learned that confidence doesn’t stem from conforming to societal expectations but from embracing who I am, flaws and all.

Defying Societal Norms

Yes, I might not be the best-dressed person in the room, but my wardrobe doesn’t define my character or intelligence. My achievements speak louder than my appearance, and I’ve found solace in knowing that I contribute meaningfully to the lives of my loved ones.

A Message to Those Battling Insecurities

To anyone out there battling their insecurities, I encourage you to take a step back and recognize your worth. We are more than our physical attributes or relationship statuses. Life is a journey of self-discovery, and embracing our imperfections is a crucial part of that process.

Conclusion

So here’s to Praveen, who might be a bit shorter, not the most stylish, and still figuring out the romance game. But amidst it all, he’s the one running the house, supporting his sister’s dreams, and excelling in his career.

Imperfections and all, I’m proud of the person I am becoming, and I hope you can find that pride in yourself too.

Cheers to self-acceptance and the beauty of embracing our unique journeys! 🌟

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Praveen Pal
Praveen Pal

Written by Praveen Pal

Software engineer, technical writer & open-source maintainer

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